August 2009 - Finding Support During Challenging Times
- What is a "Support Circle"?
- What is an "Anchor"?
- More About the Anchor Position
- In the Mean Time ... Tips for Coping with Everyday
- Resources (links, books, articles, the
Support Circle: Anchor
by Emily Baumbach
As we make our way through a lifetime, all of us have what's called a Support
Circle of 12 people.
These 12 people are there for us even when we go in and out of being in
contact with them. When we bump into them after a lapse, they're still
there offering us support. Each of the 12 people in our circle has a special
For instance, our Love Position
person is someone who always loves us no matter what; and we love them no matter
what. Our Healer Position
person can be our health practitioner, massage therapist or just a friend to
take us to the doctor.
One of the most important people we can have around these days is our Anchor
Our Anchor will help us feel connected to our core on
just about every level — spiritual, emotional, physical. Our Anchor
person will often times show up as our favorite loving parent or a long-time
neighbor who takes care of the house while we're away.
Our Anchor person can be a good friend, a beloved relative, our
spiritual teacher, our pet dog or even someone famous whom we've never
met. (For instance, Larry King and Dan Rather are Anchor Position people
for millions — and they're called "news anchors" for a reason.)
Anchor people are people who are grounded and who are always there for us
through thick and thin. They are people we can trust. Possessions
can step into the Anchor role when our primary Anchor Support person isn't
around. For a lot of us, it's our homes, our cars, our clothing, our book
collection, our backyard garden. We can also get anchoring from our
church, ashram, professional organizations and neighborhood coffee klatches.
These things ground us and make us feel safe.
What I call "The Great Acceleration" is now happening full
bore. Everything is speeding up — karmas, agreements, life circumstances,
births, deaths. It's hard to keep up.
April 2009 was an especially difficult month for most of us and just about
everyone I ran into was having a huge, major life crisis — threatened or real job
loss, home loss, medical problems, loss of income, loss (by death) of loved
It's been a hard year so far for most of us. At times like this, our Humor
Position people can be helpful in giving us the transcendental experience of
laughing. Our Discipline people can help us get out of bed and out
looking for a job. Our Knowledge people can offer helpful
information to get ourselves out of the well of depression. All of our Support
Circle can make us feel better. In turn, we ourselves act as Support
Circle people for others. It's a nice back-and forth relationship with the
Because the economy is in such bad shape and the karmic speedway is going too
fast to control, most of us are longing for something to anchor us. The
problem is, our Anchors are moving
around and looking for their own Anchors.
It's helpful to know that our Anchors tend to change through the lifetime.
Sometimes it might be one person, then after a few years or decades, someone
else will be our Anchor.
We might anchor into our local meditation group that meets once a week, then
as people come and go, we'll find new anchoring either there or elsewhere.
All this shifting of our anchor points can be scary and unsettling until we find
that our ultimate anchor is ourselves.
Many mystics and saints have realized that this world is never anchored and
is never anchoring. We can never, ever be anchored in this consensus
reality simply because its nature is change.
Spiritual maturity means we turn away from fruitless anchoring in outer
things and people, and we turn toward fruitful anchoring in our Core Being —
which never changes. This takes courage and readiness — something that
happens when we stop and pay attention to what is real. Discovering the
true Anchor inside is a happy accident that we can't control, but (as my teacher
Ngeton once said) we can be
ruthlessly self-vigilant to make ourselves more accident-prone. We can be
ready for it when it happens.
If you're not authentically There
yet in your own anchoring, here's how you can soothe your mind and emotions:
- Find an Anchor, any Anchor: Conjure up
an inner guide who is there for you 24 hours a day. It can be a famous guru
or "The World's Foremost Authority" on your favorite subject, a loving family member,
image of your own Self in human form (inside your mind) or simply your own
faith in something greater than yourself.
- Sit down with a financial advisor who
can help you come up with a plan to save money, no matter what your
financial situation. Suze Orman (Priest role
Aggression mode, Realist attitude, Greed dragon) is a current financial
Anchor Position person for our entire nation, as is Ben Bernanke (Scholar
role, Discrimination goal, Observation mode,
- Anchor with the physical Earth:
- Put your feet in the dirt.
- Walk bare foot in the grass.
- Walk on the beach.
- Plant a vegetable garden and some fruit trees.
- Get away from the city, turn off the news and go for a walk in nature.
This will soothe your Instinctive Center by reminding you of your many,
many past lifetimes. You'll get a sense of eternal continuity.
- The US Government, oddly enough, is a
huge Anchor Position force right now. It's bailing out banks, supporting the
military, giving unemployment benefits and tax breaks to get the economy
- Return to the past for comfort by
regressing to an earlier chronological age. Go into a fetal position, eat
your favorite ice cream, play tag in the yard with some kids.
- Hang out with history. Read history
books, rent old movies and movies about people from past centuries. Find a
historical context for what's happening by studying the stock market graph
from its own inception long ago.
- Look at the future with astrology or
clairvoyance to see what trends are coming up. This will put life into a
broad context and will let your Instinctive Center know that Yes,
there actually will be a future, in spite of how bad things
look right now. Everything always changes.
- Be flexible. You never know where
opportunity will appear.
- Sit quietly and meditate.
you what is real. Go from there
to Here. Eventually,
the snow in the snow globe will settle down.
- Explode occasionally to relieve
stress: cry, swear, sweat, throw up, get diarrhea, attack a pillow. Big
emotions are an invitation to step outside the bondage of daily illusion.
- Experience full-on panic. Move toward
fear and feed your demons. If you're about to lose everything, go ahead and
lose everything. Let the walls dissolve. The less you own, the fewer burdens
you have. Go from freak-out to freedom.
- Count your blessings. Gratitude
changes your whole mindset. Be grateful that you are alive for the next few
minutes and let everything else wait.
- Set a different worry schedule.
Postpone your worry until another day in the future when you have more time
to focus on it — and don't let yourself worry until then. When the day
comes, maybe you'll be calmer or maybe you'll postpone your worry again.
Regardless, it will give you some time and perspective for your situation.
- Know that the economy will — eventually —
improve. I expect this to start happening later in 2010, with a
slow climb to normalcy until 2015. Things will get
Copyright © 2009 by Emily Baumbach, CCHT. (Adapted from Emily’s June 2009
newsletter - used with permission of the author). Emily is a clinical
hypnotherapist, professional astrologer, author and teacher of the personality
system we call The Personality Game. Emily's company,
is a publishing and educational company devoted to the study of who we are.
of the personality descriptions we have on our famous people
pages come from Emily's book, Celebrities.
- 7 Personality Types: Discover Your True Role in Achieving Success and
Happiness. Elizabeth Puttick, PhD. Hay House, 2009.
US version: ISBN-10:
1401924565 ISBN-13: 978-1401924560 (UK & Australia
version available April 2009; USA & Canada version available mid
July 2009) www.7personalitytypes.com
- The Personality Puzzle: Solving the Mystery of Who You Are. Jose Stevens, JP Van
Hulle. Pivotal Resources; (December 1990) ASIN: 0942663063
- The Power Path: The Shaman's Way to Success in Business and Life.
Jose Stevens. New World Library; 1st edition (June 15, 2002) ISBN: 1577312171
- Transforming Your Dragons: Turning Personality Fear Patterns into Personal Power.
Jose Stevens. Bear & Co; (July 1994) ISBN: 1879181177
- Income Without a Job: Living Well Without a Paycheck. Michael
Jay Anthony, Barbara J. Taylor. Lulu.com,
978-0-557-00377-8. Website: www.income-without-a-job.com.
Tap into your own creativity and use your full potential. Learn
how to see opportunities that others miss.
- What No One Ever Tells You about Marketing Your
Own Business: Real-Life Advice from 101 Successful Entrepreneurs.
Jan Norman. Publisher: Kaplan Business, 2004. ISBN-10:
0793185726 ISBN-13: 978-0793185726
- Business Class: Etiquette Essentials for Success
at Work. Jacqueline Whitmore. Publisher: St. Martin's
Press, 2005. ISBN-10:
0312338090 ISBN-13: 978-0312338091
- Career Anchors: Discovering Your Real Values and
Guide. Edgar H. Schein. Publisher:
Pfeiffer & Co, 1993. ISBN-10:
0893842109 ISBN-13: 978-0893842109. Workbook: ISBN-10:
0787977594 ISBN-13: 978-0787977597
- What Color is Your Parachute? A Practical Manual for JobHunters &
Career Changers, Richard Bolles, Ten Speed Press, Berkeley CA, (this
annually updated book continues to grow and provide invaluable methods to
determine the best job/career) 2010 issue. Publisher: Ten Speed
Press (available September 22, 2009). ISBN-10:
1580089879 ISBN-13: 978-1580089876
- Masters of Networking: Building Relationships
for Your Pocketbook and Soul. Ivan Misner Bard
Press, 2000. ISBN-10:
1885167482 ISBN-13: 978-1885167484
Related articles on our website:
October 2002 - Reducing Stress in
September 2004 - Stress
Busters: Managing Stress in the Workplace
July 2001 - Balancing Life and
Support Circle positions
Personality Game (overview)
Other Personality Game / Michael
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