February 2014 ~ Love the One Youíre With
February 2014 ~ Love the One Youíre With
"Love the One Youíre With" was a 1970 song by folk singer Stephen Stills, who was inspired by the tag line "If you canít be with the one you love, love the one youíre with" ó a frequent remark by musician Billy Preston.
February is traditionally the month when we celebrate Valentineís Day ó a time to acknowledge all the people we care about.
"Love the One Youíre With" is also a metaphor for being able to see the good in any situation.
People often complain about their boss, their job, their work load, their customers, their clients, their commute, their pay check, etc. Over and over, they revisit negative thoughts in their mind until they are consumed with negativity. They forget that there are also many benefits of whatever work situation they find themselves in at the moment.
This month, we focus on seeing more of the positive side of a job or work situation, rather than the negative side as in "If you canít be with the one you love, love the one youíre with."
When you can start to focus on the good things about your work, the negative things will fade and become less compelling.
In any "bad" situation, there is always some good. This month, we encourage you to find the good side and to revel in those good things until your thinking is more balanced.
Is your boss a jerk?
Is your job not what you really want?
No matter what is happening around us, when we focus on negative things, we become more negative. People can feel that when you are around them as if there is a silent beacon shining forth negativity. No one likes to be around a whiner or complainer. People like to be around people who make them feel good.
If you can practice seeing the positive aspects of your job situation, your entire energy field becomes more positive and that carries over into other areas of your life. When you feel good, you will feel less stress and your overall health will be better. When you feel less stress, you become happier. By focusing on the positive aspects, you job experience may change also. If you were formerly negative about everything and you change to a positive attitude, better opportunities may come your way. People will notice the shift in you and start to treat you differently.
Learn to find the "happy place" no matter what is going around you. Learn little tricks that make you feel good whenever you want to feel good.
Maybe you have photos of your family on your desk or on your computer screen saver. Maybe you have a photo of your dream home or fantasy vacation or a favorite pet makes you feel good. When you look at people or things ó or think about people or things you love ó you can choose to feel love instead of stress or anxiety. that good feeling then can carry you through your day.
Another technique that works well: Before going into a meeting, instead of thinking about all the things that could go wrong, imagine that the meeting will go well and that everyone will leave happy. Go into the meeting happy and upbeat. We've done this many times and taught others to use this technique. They are often amazed at how much better meetings flow when they start out with positive intentions.
This month, practice finding and using your own personal "happy place." Do it every day all month long. We all encounter many daily situations where we can practice adjusting our attitude and finding our own "happy place."
If you are able to do that every single day, even if sometimes you forget, you will start to build healthier habits that will benefit every area of your life.
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We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses. .. Abraham Lincoln
Get going. Move forward. Aim High. Plan a takeoff. Don't just sit on the runway and hope someone will come along and push the airplane. It simply won't happen. Change your attitude and gain some altitude. Believe me, you'll love it up here. .. Donald Trump
Minds are like flowers, they only open when the time is right. .. Stephen Richards
Sometimes, when you lose your way, you find yourself. Mandy Hale
Never run from the enemy; tackle them. .. Victoria Addino
Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same. .. Francesca Reigler
If you think you can do a thing or think you canít do a thing, youíre right. .. Henry Ford
Take chances, make mistakes. Thatís how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave. .. Mary Tyler Moore
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